Why Safe Haven?

Safe Haven is an attachment term that Natalie first learned about at Towson University.  During her senior year, she took a class called Attachment Across the Lifespan.  During that time she became fascinated with the concept of attachment.  It began to inform much of the way that she thinks about people and relationships.  As Natalie entered graduate school at Vanderbilt, her fascination with attachment continued to grow.

It can be argued that attachment begins while a baby is in the mother’s womb.  After a baby is born the attachment relationship continues to form between caregiver and child.  Attachment theory posits that children need a secure base from which to explore and a “safe haven” to return to when they become frightened or upset. 

Attachment continues across the lifespan into adulthood.  For those who have experienced interpersonal trauma or attachment wounds, they need a safe haven to return to for comfort and support.  As trauma-informed providers, we seek to create a safe space where individuals feel seen and heard.  At Safe Haven we believe we are all wired for connection.  We all desire a sense of love, acceptance, and belonging.  Unfortunately, sometimes the people who are supposed to love you and keep you safe, end up being the people who hurt you.  This can be intentional or unintentional.  This can include parents, caregivers, relatives, teachers, coaches, or some other person in your life.  In order to heal, one needs to feel safe.  At Safe Haven, we see ourselves as a potential attachment figures to our clients.  We seek to provide a secure base from which to explore and try new skills and a safe haven to which you can return for safety and support.