Today is 4 years exactly since my last miscarriage. I can still remember viscerally what it felt like to see my tiny baby and hold her in my hands - so tiny at just 8.5 weeks old. And yet, I saw her eyes, her little arms and legs, even her feet and hands.
Read MoreWhat many people don’t know is that as you get closer and closer to becoming a parent, deeply buried implicit memory starts to wake up. Your unmet needs from your earliest days begin to resurface in new and different ways.
Read MoreYou can’t un-feel a prior loss.
Pregnancy after loss is different than pregnancy before loss. It can be fraught with anxiety, and sometimes even an impulse to disconnect. And if you’ve experienced multiple losses, these feelings can be even more intense.
Read MoreIf you’ve experienced a challenging birth and are feeling numb and disconnected or panicky and hyper vigilant, processing your birth story can help tremendously.
Read MoreThis pattern often starts in childhood: straight A student, star athlete, the lead in the play, or multiple of these things. College looked similar, then you graduated and either went onto get higher degree, climbed the corporate ladder, or became a successful musician. Whatever it is that you put your full effort into has worked out for you.
Read MoreSometimes birth and postpartum aren’t what you expect. Your birth may not have gone as planned. You may have experienced a disregard for your birth plan, violations of your trust and autonomy. Or you may have experienced far more pain than you were expecting.
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